Farewell my dearest friend

July 1, 1993 - October 19, 2009

This is my most difficult post yet. Last night I had to say goodbye to my dear friend Lucy. She was 16 and a cat. That's what the outside world sees. Here's what I see.

Lucy was my faithful companion. She gave unconditional love. She was never disappointed in me, never angry at me, never too busy for me, never too anything for me. When I hurt or worried, she crawled into my lap and purred absorbing my troubles like a sponge. When I was happy, she crawled into my lap and purred. When we watched tv at night, she would crawl into my lap and purr, just happy to be with us. When Daniel and I were first married, she entertained me while he worked late hours. When the children were born, she watched over them with me and loved them because I loved them. When I had surgery, she remained by my side throughout my recovery. When I had bouts of insomnia, she got up with me - sometimes she was able to lull me back to sleep with her magic kitty dust and other times we just sat together until the morning came.

Every day she has been there - at the foot of the bed, in the sunbeam, in front of the cabinet with the kitty treats inside, on the couch with whomever happened to sit there, in my lap as I typed these many blogs... and now she's not. For the first time in 16 years, there's no life in the house when we're not there and when we are, there's still an eerie emptiness. How could one little kitty cat bring so much life, love, and joy into a house? That's an easy one. Lucy just reflected back all the love we gave to her. We treated her like one of us and loved her like one of us and so she became one of us.

We buried her in the backyard last night, out near the poplar trees and Sara's tree from USC. Many family members came out to say farewell with us. It was a sweet and fitting tribute to my very best friend.

Good Days, Bad Days

September has been another hectic month for us. We've had reasons to celebrate together - an anniversary, 4 big wins for the Byrnes football team, and several "atta boy"s and "atta girl"s from school, work, or church for each of us.
We've also had our share of reasons to mope - a heat pump on the fritz for the 5th time in 5 years that just needs replacing, the beloved minivan that needed brake repair, frustrations at work and school that caused lost sleep, lost free time, and general grumpiness. But through it all, we've remained close and supportive of one another.
When one of us stumbles, the others offer encouragement. When one of us has a bad day, the others give space and time to recover. I'm not saying we always get it right. Sometimes we bicker because one of us says the wrong thing to the wrong person on the wrong day. It happens. But, I have noticed this month that we've been especially loving to one another in our times of woe and as we've been experiencing the down times, we've been careful not to let our loved ones become the targets of our venting.
So as the end of September approaches, here's to hoping that October will be filled with resolutions to current dilemmas and much more sunshine than rain.

16th Anniversary

Now

Then

Friday was our 16th wedding anniversary. Since Daniel has already posted the ol' wedding photo on his facebook page, I might as well post it here too. We were so young back then. We really had no clue what we were getting into, but we jumped in and held on. 16 years later we're still holding on together and, God willing, we will for the rest of our lives. I cannot imagine my life spent with anyone other than Daniel. He knows me better than I know myself and loves me anyway. He is the best husband and father I could have asked for to lead this family, but most of all, he is my very best friend!

Friday Night Fever

Friday Night Fever has begun!!! This past Friday was the first home game of the year at Byrnes. It was special for us because it was Sara's first time on the field with the Rebel Regiment and, as it is Zeb's Senior year, his first game as a Nixon Nut. It was such a fun night and, of course, Byrnes won beating Myrtle Beach 65-14. GO REBELS!!

Greenville Drive Game

The Byrnes Color Guard was invited to perform a routine before the Greenville Drive baseball game on Spartanburg County night. Here's some pics of Sara, the guard, and her biggest fans! I can't forget Owen. That's a picture of him with the fly ball he caught. All in all, a great time was had by everyone.

The Music Man

Owen has always loved music. Even when he was a baby he loved for me rock him to sleep and sing "Take Me Out to the Ballgame". Go ahead and laugh. It worked and, as you probably know, with babies whatever works is fabulous! He has enjoyed playing around on my piano and with Daniel's harmonica for years. Now he has his own instrument and it's bigger than he is!!! He seems to enjoy playing it and taking band class at school. Hopefully this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship. :-)

The summer flew by

Well, there it is - the annual first day of school picture. Summer is over now. School officially began yesterday and our family is back to business as usual. This summer was much different than past ones as the kids are growing up and becoming more and more independent.
Sara spent 5 weeks of her summer at the high school for colorguard camps - beginner camp, guard camp, and band camp. Some days were 8 am - 9pm! She was exhausted, but loved (almost) every minute of it. She has learned so much, made lots of new friends, and gotten ready to perform on the field at football games and competitions this fall.
Owen developed the closest thing to a "gang" our neighborhood has ever seen. He and two of the younger boys on our street spent their days playing ball in someone's yard, swimming in the neighbor's pool, riding bikes and skateboards, and playing video games when it got too hot. He was gone for most of the day, coming home usually just to eat.
I read, did the housewife thing (cooking and cleaning), furthered my obsession with facebook, took Owen on a couple of field trips to Shipwreck Cove and Frankie's Fun Park, and chauffered Sara to and from the school. All in all it was a relaxing summer and while I am glad to be back at school, another week of laziness would have been just fine with me.